Divorce Proofing

“Everything we are being sold today is disposable…use it and throw it away and then get another one, brand new, squeaky clean, on the cheap.”


-Shauna Niequist


Unfortunately that’s what society has come to believe, that relationships are included in that…that people have become disposable, that relationships have become disposable. When we see something in our partner that we don’t like, instead of trying to work things out, we have come to a place where we just get rid of them, hoping to find something better the next time. And we see that sad reality reflected in the staggering divorce statistic.


  • 50% of first marriages END IN DIVORCE
  • 67% of second marriages END IN DIVORCE
  • 73% of third marriages END IN DIVORCE


The statistics aren’t good. The statistics suggest that disposable relationships create a high divorce rate and nothing more.


The grass isn’t greener on the other side; the grass is greener where you water it. Good relationships don’t just happen; good relationships are built.


Do you want a marriage that you can build a family on? Do you want a relationship that is built upon a foundation that is made up of honesty, time, and forgiveness?  Then you can’t settle for anything cheap, anything artificial, or anything shiny. Real relationships, the kind that are durable and will last, take work, effort, and commitment.  It’s not flashy, but it might just be the most beautiful thing ever.


Put the time in from the beginning. Or if you aren’t at the beginning, start now. With the divorce rate as high as it is and ever climbing, do you really want to risk becoming the statistic because you didn’t put in the effort when it was so much easier?


You may have a good relationship now, but why stop there? Good can be great, effort put forth towards strengthening your relationship is never a waste. The effort serves to make the good times better and the hard times, less hard than they could be. It doesn’t take that much time or effort to create the great when you have the good; it just takes learning the right skills, asking the right questions, and figuring out answers together. And that’s what we do, you and your partner are the builders, I just hold the plans.

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